Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Cat Facts!

A kid posted his number on his Facebook account. He then received these texts.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012


No post today. If you care about having an open internet, if you care about not letting corrupt politicians pass horribly drafted legislation, go sign the petition on that page and tell your friends to do the same. Thanks.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

How do I forgive my boyfriend?

Dear Edahn,

I just moved in with someone in another city. He's 17 years older than I and we have been dating a little under a year. He was in a divorce over a year ago because his ex-wife had an affair for 2 years. Since we've been together I walked up behind him sending "I miss you" messages to an ex-girlfriend. And today I found an email from his ex-wife saying they had sex 2 months ago 2 days after we reconciled. His ex-wife also claims to have been pregnant and miscarried a month after we met. I'm a moderately honest person and I want to forgive him. I have not brought the email to his attention. I'm so ashamed of myself for snooping. Can I forgive and trust him? Being young I now feel naive and fooled.

YOU FEEL FOOLED BECAUSE you are being fooled. This is not someone you should trust. You have all the evidence you could ever want and more. That part is obvious and not really controversial. It sucks that you moved in with him, but I really think you should reconsider your decision. The real question here is why you're selecting these kinds of guys and even considering going back to them after they've shown themselves to be untrustworthy. 

I don't know what it is about this guy that attracts you, but whatever it is, it doesn't overcome his poor character. Character isn't something you can change, and in the end you'll get hurt. Try dating someone closer to your age who has real integrity--someone you deserve. You can even consider taking a break from dating while you explore your values and take a closer look at your relationship choices. I wish you the best of luck. 

Friday, January 13, 2012

Why am I afraid of holes?

Why do I have a fear of patterns, holes, or marks that repeat themselves? I get chills, very itchy, I can't breathe, and feel very anxious when I see eaten corn cobs, honey combs, repeated holes, or trees with bumps all over the bark. It's very disturbing to me. I've only known two other people with this reaction. How can I get over it? Exposure therapy?

THERE'S SOMETHING CALLED TRYPOPHOBIA, which is the fear of holes or clusters of holes. READERS: don't google it because you'll see some images that will give you the phobia if you don't have it yet.

No one know why it develops, and it isn't really an "official phobia," (i.e., there's no Wikipedia page for it) but all phobias develop in the same ways. One way is through a traumatic incident associated with a pattern. Maybe you saw something gross on TV while eating matzah (a traumatizing experience in itself). Or maybe you just saw a friend react to something with holes are learned vicariously to do the same. Then again, maybe you're just more easily grossed out by things. Truth is, it doesn't really matter that much why it exists; what matters more is how you handle it.

Exposure therapy is a good idea. I'd suggest you aim to tolerate being uncomfortable rather than eliminating your discomfort altogether. Make a list of 7 things that scare you from least to greatest. The first 4 you'll just imagine. The last 3 you'll actually be looking at live. Every day, take 5 to 10 minutes to imagine or look at the object. If you freak out that's okay, it'll pass. Just try and keep your breath slow and flowing, nothing else. Eventually you'll calm down, the itching will stop, and you won't feel anxious. When this happens, you can stop the exercise. Every week, move from one object to the next. Again, the point isn't to make your reaction go away, but to make you more tolerant of your discomfort. The rest will happen naturally. Lemme know how it goes.

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