Dear Edahn,
Why do so many people lack stamina in seeing through their projects? :P
-a fan
Dear Fan,
Ask someone else. :-)
Edahn
Dear Edahn,
Why do so many people lack stamina in seeing through their projects? :P
-a fan
Dear Edahn,
I'm mortified. The other night I was hooking up with my new BF and I actually farted while orgasming--right on top of him!!! I want to die. I just sorta pretended it didn't happen and continued on as usual. I'm wondering if there is actually any chance that he didn't notice. Is this the kind of thing you might not notice? It's never happened to me before, so I'm wondering how common it is. Also, I haven't seen him since. It was two nights ago. Should I bring it up as a joke, or just hope it never comes up again?
[hey asshole,]
how do i stop having revenge fantasies about hurting my boss's children
im on the verge or homicdal rage
dear Edahn,
Fuck you...
warning: when I finally lose it and go on a rampage, you should consider yourself added to my hitlist
Hi Edahn,
So I've been casually seeing this girl for a few months who I REALLY like; I really really like this woman. When we first started seeing each other we lived in the same city, then she moved, but we continued to keep in touch. This girl has grown on me, I really would love to have her in my life on a regular basis, but my life is here, in this city. Since she's moved away she's driven out to see me a few times, and we always have a great time. I know she's having second thoughts about her move back home. She's not sure on what she wants in life right now, but her family is driving her nuts, and I think she wants to move back. Money is always an issue, and I want to let her know she can move back and live with me without moving too fast, or overwhelming her. Moving in together is a big step, but I think we're a good fit. What can I do to help her move in the right direction? The one that leads towards ME.
Dear Edahn,
I have been seeing someone for a while who is very sweet and caring, and who I care about very much. I notice that sometimes he gets either distracted or cold suddenly (even for a moment, sometimes there are times where I think he is either uncomfortable or not having fun and then he keeps referring to that event and what a great time he had - and not in the tweaky/nervous way I associate with lying) and I have addressed it with him, but he consistently tells me that it's unintentional. I'm very affectionate and also hyper-sensitive to the way other people feel, so I may not be perceiving it correctly.
I was telling a friend earlier today that I've decided to accept that he isn't like me and isn't constantly on affection mode, particularly because I don't want him to change, and certainly not for or because of me. My friend responded that she thinks it's suspicious. She also brought up that sometimes I won't hear from him for a day or so and it will hurt my feelings/ego a little, but I don't address this because I think it's both embarrassing and unreasonable to get upset with someone when they have other priorities they are focused on.
There is no question in my mind as to whether or not he cares about me. Until I talk to another girl and she poisons my mind. Am I in denial or is my friend a crazy?
[Dear Edahn,]
Since I've been working out more I've noticed that I have really bulgy veins. I work out to look better, but I feel like veins are not so cute. So I ask you Edahn, bulging veins on an otherwise sexy woman: hot or not?
Edahn,
A few weeks ago I signed up for the internet dating site JDate, not because I have a hard time meeting girls, but because I have a hard time meeting JEWISH girls. Since I started "using" (it sometimes feels like a drug) all of Jdate's resources I noticed my social life has gone to shit. I have forgotten how to interact with people in real life...I'm not AS responsive as I used to be and that makes me feel awkward at times. There's no pause/delay time in real life that gives a person the opportunity to say that perfect response. Do you have any thoughts on how a person can use the skills they've picked up by talking to girls over the internet and somehow translate it into normal person to person conversation.
Hey Edahn,
How does it feel to be a stupid faggot who eats his boogers?
Dear Edahn,
When is it time to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend?IF YOU KNOW WHAT type of relationship will really fulfill you and your current relationship isn't cutting it, then it's time to ask two questions: 1) Can it be improved or is the problem permanent (e.g., due to a difference in personalities, compatibility, needs)? 2) Do I have the motivation, energy, and skill to improve it, or is it smarter to just move on and try again elsewhere? It takes honesty and some wisdom to answer those questions. Talking, reading, and soliciting advice from friends can facilitate that process. Don't get suckered in by your emotions or your fear of hurting the other person; if you decide it's not a good match, it's better to break it off than drag things out and make each other suffer.
Hi Edahn, (Hello, madam)
I recently became aware of the huge difference wearing spanx can have on my appearance and confidence, (is this an ad?) especially in clingy clothing. The problem is that I never know how to go from dressed to undressed with a guy when I am wearing undergarments that will likely remind him of his grandma. Any tips?
Better, perhaps, is 'craving, clinging, grasping,' or even, to use our modern psychological word, 'blocking.' When, for example, somebody is blocked, and dithers and hesitates, and doesn't know what to do, he is in the strictest Buddhist sense attached, he's stuck. But a buddha can't be stuck, he cannot be phased. He always flows, just as water always flows, even if you dam it, the water just keeps on getting higher and higher and higher until it flows over the dam. It's unstoppable.
Dear Edahn,
He's the first guy I ever loved. We dated for the first couple years in college, then broke up and went our separate ways. We maintained an awkward and distant relationship, quasi-physical. Recently, a conversation about getting back together sparked when he was visiting San Francisco over the holidays; he lives in Brooklyn.
We talked about love and that kind of unique crazy it drives us. He hates NY and wants to move immediately, but the catch is that due to poor money management and credit card debt, he is stuck in NY for at least another year and a half. I care deeply about him, and I can see us growing old together, but I haven't been close to him, neither geographically nor emotionally, in years. I'm scared that if all ducks line up some how and we get back together, in 2 years we're going to realize we don't belong together and we made a HUGE mistake by wasting each other's time. How do I get through this time in my life when I feel like I should be out looking for happiness and love but instead I'm pining for it across the country, for a ridiculous amount of time?! It seems like I'm scared to move on, but at the same time, I'm really coming back to a familiar face, feeling, and fuck that has never been equaled or eclipsed by anyone since him. I want to wait for him, but I don't know if that's an intelligent thing to do. Thanks.
Lately, I have come to the realization that most guys simply don't call girls anymore! Rather, they would much prefer to send text messages than attempting some sort of human connection. Can you please explain this to me? Why aren't many men putting in the extra effort and calling? Does whether a guy calls or text mean something about how much he likes a girl? Is it true that a guy who likes a girl more tends to call? Is it true that a guy who is less "serious" texts more? At what point should the guy text a little less and call a little more? Is there a way for a woman to signal to a guy that she would much rather he call than text without sounding too "needy" or "psycho"?
From: Asker
9:10am 2/1/2010